There's a tremendous responsibility in joining yourself to someone in marriage. You inherit their debts, their neuroses, their family, their love, their pain, their joy...their entire personhood becomes entwined into yours. You each give up a bit of your own identity, so that the two of you can craft a new one.
The first year is trying for most newlyweds. Personal space is a thing of the past. Hobbies that you could spend hours and dollars on are superseded by the need to furnish a life together. You can't check out emotionally. You have to actually talk about things. You have to consider your spouse's side. You have to be an adult.
But...there's an incomparable joy in losing yourself in love. You have a purpose beyond self-satisfaction. You might have children together, greatly diminishing yourself in one way, but adding to yourself in many others. Life is more vibrant, more chaotic, more tiresome, and more rewarding.
It's not for everyone. It's risky, giving a piece of your heart away. But if you choose your lover and best friend wisely, and commit to it with all your heart, it is the greatest adventure you'll ever take.
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